We always notice other people's shortcomings, and our own almost never. Daily vanity, life and unloved work turn our life into slavery. But is it really, or are these just our prejudices? But everyone can answer this question himself. In this article I want to share my experience on how to make my life happier.
As much as we would like to avoid difficulties, they are inevitable. And this is a fact that you just need to put up with. After all, what matters here is not what they are, but how we relate to them. Two very well-known labels immediately come to mind, which we are used to hanging the “optimist” and “pessimist” for everyone. Without going into the details of these terms, I will say that the attitude to the world is, first of all, the internal state of your soul. A great role in this is played by our environment. And the foundation has been laid since childhood.
The easiest way to blame someone for their troubles. Thus, we justify ourselves, and it becomes like it would be easier to live. Only the problem is not solved, but settles somewhere deep inside us. But if you look in more detail, you can understand that the problem is only a combination of circumstances, though not the most pleasant, but in most cases independent of us.
There is a wonderful Japanese wisdom on this subject: "If a problem can be solved, then you should not worry about it; if you can’t solve it, then worry about it is useless." As a rule, practically everyone agrees with this statement, only its units are used in practice. Therefore, the first rule for a happy person is to learn how to calmly accept different circumstances in their life. Of course, you can’t do without emotions. Anyway, for 70% of people this seems unrealistic. But this is no more than another excuse for themselves. It's just that everyone needs a different time in order to learn self-control.
Our second problem is connected with herd instinct. Because living in a society, we try to be “like everyone else”. It is very convenient and it seems to us safe. But is it really so? I think no. After all, every person is an individual. It's just that we are used to living in the system from birth, following the long-established life principles. Since going beyond the scope, we are primarily faced with criticism. And we perceive it as something terrible. We cease to show ourselves, go to the dream, and return to the familiar. And here again, much depends on our surroundings. Because, what kind of environment, such a framework. One cannot be afraid of criticism and misunderstanding on the part of society. We live our life and write our story. Therefore, the second rule of a happy person is to learn to hear what they say to you, draw conclusions, but not depend on other people's opinions.
Everyone is capable of much. Sometimes we cannot imagine how limitless our possibilities can be. Therefore, you need to stop justifying yourself, learn to control your emotions and are not afraid to leave the crowd.