Friendship is constantly tested. This is a natural process, indicating the development of man and the formation of his system of values. To strengthen friendships, it is necessary to improve self-esteem.
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Instruction manual
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If you want to strengthen friendships, rely on the fact that the values of friendship change throughout life. This is a natural and ongoing process. Entering into relationships with different people, you gain some communication experience. In this case, the core values are systematized and specified. For example, having entered a university, you have made new friends. Many things connect you, your friendship becomes interesting and exciting. But years pass, and after a while you find that your attitude towards friendship has changed, you make completely different demands on it.
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In order to further understand whether these or other friendships suit you, clearly understand for yourself what you call friendship and what exactly do you value in it? Highlight the qualities of your friend or girlfriend, evaluate the manifestations of this person in relation to you, and be aware of your feelings and well-being that you experience while being near him. Try to understand what exactly you would like to change in this sense. Formulate the answer to the question: "What do you want to get from friendships?"
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Match your desires and needs with similar categories of your boyfriend or girlfriend. Each person has his own individual characteristics. Therefore, it is important to understand that friendship is fundamentally a compromise. Reflecting on what exactly you could forgive your friend and which of the requirements you could mitigate, you will inevitably come to a completely natural conclusion. On friendly terms, there are things in which you are ready to make some concessions, but there are also ones that completely exclude this.
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Highlight your own desires and needs that support your inner dignity, not subject to revision. Each person they are individual. Someone can forgive a friend for deceit, betrayal, insult, and someone can not bear the frequent ridicule or stupid jokes, which will inevitably lead to a breakdown. Make and write down a list of situations in which you cannot compromise.
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Discuss your requirements with a friend or girlfriend. Given that the upbringing and communication experience of each person is purely individual, such things can be perceived differently. Your close friend or girlfriend should know and correctly understand what is important to you in your relationship.
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Make the right decisions. If your relationship meets mutual requirements, then you have all the means in your hands that can significantly strengthen your friendly relations without causing contradictions. Otherwise, you will be able to end or change relationships that have long been out of touch with friendship.