Every day, millions of people quarrel in the world in all corners of our planet. Quarrels of spouses are especially dangerous. Such quarrels can go so far that the husband and wife can cool each other for a while or even get a divorce. And if their children are witnesses to these conflicts? Such events can lead to serious consequences.
Instruction manual
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First of all, you need to establish the cause of the quarrels arising in the family. This can be different views on raising children, maintaining a family budget, organizing vacations and much more. Also, couples often quarrel due to misunderstanding. Another common cause of family disputes is the inconsistency of the “biological clock” of individual family members. Owls with larks do not always get along. However, no matter how serious the quarrels are, the growing conflict can always be resolved with the help of concessions, compromises and constructive solutions to family problems. Follow a number of rules and in most cases you can avoid family conflict.
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Do not give in to the desire to prove anything or to show your egoism. Stupid stubbornness is also extremely undesirable, even rather unacceptable. In addition, do not raise the tone of voice during a quarrel, because screaming scandal can only be ignited, but not repaid. And do not give your emotions a way out, keep calm.
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Do not involve others in your quarrel, be it friends or even relatives. Conflicting spouses is only their business, so you run the risk of ruining your relationship with your soul mate, asking for help "from the outside."
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Before children, it is strictly contraindicated to find out their relationship. After all, they may have the wrong model of behavior with adults, including with you. This can cause emotional trauma.
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Never recall old grievances, nor think of problems out of nothing. This will only complicate your relationship and add fuel to the fire of your conflict.
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Just sit down and chat with your partner. Discuss, both express your vision of the problem and possible solutions. So you can unite and resolve the conflict together.
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And two more short, but important tips: it is sometimes worth listening first to the spouse who considers herself to be offended and disadvantaged. And never lose your sense of humor. Remember that sarcasm and wit have not seriously disturbed anyone.
Useful advice
What to do when the conflict cannot be resolved on its own? Contact your family psychologist. If you think that going to a psychoanalyst is a waste of money and time, call the helpline of the helplines.