It is not easy to become an independent person in the face of pressure from social institutions, social attitudes, obligations and authorities. However, everyone can develop personality if they are not afraid to challenge the standards of thinking and action.
Instruction manual
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A person always has several principles that make up the facets of his personality: animal instincts, following social attitudes, and individual traits. Many people who are very successful in life, at the same time, feel that over time, being within the framework of social institutions (family, educational institutions, then corporations), they lose their unique sides of character, cease to be themselves under the pressure of external circumstances.
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Awareness of the problem is the first step towards solving it. If you want to develop personality, remember your beginnings of childhood and adolescence. Pedagogy considers creativity one of the most important ways of developing a child’s personality. Why not transfer this practice to adults? Moreover, there are currently many studios and sections aimed at developing their own "I": art, dance, theater, vocal.
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Stop being shy. Individuality is the totality of traits, behavioral reactions, personal style, manner of speech, gestures and hundreds of other little things that make up the whole picture. No one will notice your identity if you carefully hide it. Do not try to be like others, express your point of view, enter into discussions, suggest your own options - most likely, there will be people who are ready to follow you and imitate you.
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Work on yourself. Keep an eye on your appearance, for an untidy look, a neglected figure, clothes chosen without any style or gloss do not contribute to self-confidence. Develop your speech skills: learn to tell jokes and funny stories, try to speak in public (make toasts at holidays, read reports at meetings, etc.)
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The domestic psychologist Boris Ananyev considered integrity, autonomy, creativity, originality as signs of a mature personality. It is impossible to find individuality somewhere outside yourself, it is your own ability to make judgments about everything, make decisions, think outside the box and act.