Often in school, a teenager has problems with teachers. The causes of the conflict may be different, and the result, as a rule, is one. And he is deplorable enough for a child in both the literal and figurative meanings of the word. Academic performance decreases, self-esteem decreases, and neurological disturbances arise (sleep problems, poor appetite, etc.). How to solve this situation?
You will need
- Attention, Patience, Objectivity
Sometimes a pen with paper to write a complaint to a higher authority or an application for transfer to another school.
Instruction manual
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First, parents need to learn how to notice problems with their child at school. A conflict with a teacher is evidenced by a situation where a child is interested in studying a subject, they scornfully talk about the teacher’s personality or become lost and locked in when asked about him. In some cases, parents have to observe even a disfigured school textbook on a specific subject. All this, together with the appearance of bad grades that did not exist before, are manifestations of a negative attitude towards the teacher and evidence of conflict.
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Intimate talk. Parents need to find out the causes and stage of the conflict. And without a frank conversation this can not be avoided. In conversation, try not to attack the child with reproaches. Believe me, even if he is not right, it is already difficult for him now. But to indulge and encourage the wrong behavior of your son or daughter is also not worth it. Try to be objective and try to make the child look at the situation through the eyes of the teacher.
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In most cases, it will be better if the child himself "resolves" the situation. Sometimes it’s enough to just go to the teacher and ask for forgiveness. But this is only worth doing if the child himself is aware of his guilt. Otherwise, he simply will regard this as your inability to protect his interests and violence against his will.
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Talk to the teacher yourself, preferably taking a child with you: let the younger generation learn to resolve conflicts in a civilized way. Listen to the teacher’s claims, your student’s explanations and try to resolve the situation in a peaceful way.
note
It is necessary to transfer a child to another school in exceptional cases, because still there he will have to adapt to the new team and environment. The last option, of course, will not resolve the conflict, but at least eliminate its source.
Useful advice
Sometimes you have to meet with teachers who, alas, only in office have this proud title. It happens that teachers try to blackmail their parents by insisting on tutoring (sometimes it is really necessary, but you have the right to choose a tutor yourself), and they simply drive anger at those who are weaker. In this case, you can threaten to complain to the education department - the school really does not like various checks and complaints, if this does not help, it is better to transfer the child to another school.