Emotions are not only positive, which make a person’s life easier and happier, but also negative. Anger, resentment, despair, irritability, sometimes turning into inexcusable rudeness. A person who is possessed by negative emotions often himself understands that it harms him, sincerely wants to get rid of such emotions, wants to learn how to overcome them, but does not know how. How to overcome them?
Instruction manual
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Sometimes it seems that life consists of one black strip, without a single gap. Both at work and at home there are continuous problems and troubles. It’s like the whole world is ganging up on you! In such circumstances, even a courageous, strong-willed person can experience despair - one of the most powerful and dangerous negative emotions.
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You need to act on the old principle: "knock out a wedge with a wedge." You just need to concentrate and say to yourself: "Yes, I feel bad now. But a huge number of people are much worse! By comparison, I’m just a favorite of fate!" Remember the cases you know for certain when a terrible, irreparable misfortune happened to your friends or acquaintances of your friends. Take a look around - you will see both the disabled and the elderly, with difficulty moving around. Think: "I, at least, am healthy and strong, and for these poor people any movement is a problem!"
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Resentment (especially malicious, undeserved) always causes mental pain. And for an impressionable, vulnerable person, it is a real torture, and sometimes it does not even subside over time! Such people, after many years in every detail, remember the insult inflicted upon them, are tormented, and suffer. The best way is to morally crush, destroy the offender. Inspire yourself: only miserable, envious, insignificant, deeply flawed persons insult and humiliate other people. To be offended by such a subject is a lot of honor for him. He is not worth it.
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Anger sometimes overshadows the mind, deprives a person of not only objectivity, but also of the elementary instinct of self-preservation. She can push on the most thoughtless, unexpected and reprehensible act. That is why it is very dangerous. What to do? In no case do not accumulate it in yourself, but give detente, but safe, which will not harm anyone! For example, in the lounges of many Japanese corporations, there were mannequins that very plausibly depicted "big bosses." And every employee, from a cleaner to a top manager, could freely and unpunishedly beat this dummy. Throw out the accumulated anger, so to speak.
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Taking into account the realities - you can tear a sheet of paper into small pieces, break a pencil, firmly “express yourself” (it’s better after all in a purely male team), cut a fist on the table from the bottom of your heart. The main thing is that anger does not splash out on a particular person who has turned up under a hot hand.