Even if you do not have serious enemies, people who annoy, fall in the way of almost everyone. And if there is a clear enemy, then life can turn into hell. The Christian faith offers us to love the enemy, this recipe is very ancient and tested by many, so it’s worth paying attention to it.
Instruction manual
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First, change your perception of the person. To do this, you need to consciously look for advantages in it, without trying to simultaneously find flaws. The positive features of the enemy can be written on paper, special attention should be paid to those circumstances that are very vivid and obvious to everyone. They will be useful to you in the future.
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Next, write a letter, which is optional to send. In it you need to turn to your future friend and sincerely tell your imaginary interlocutor your pain, which was associated with your relationship. The letter should be kept in order to be able to address it if you suddenly have to explain.
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After that, think about what the relationship has taught you. Agree that without this person you would not have gained very valuable experience and mentally thank your former enemy.
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Then write all the insults on paper, you can cry and then burn these notes, mentally repeating the phrase "I forgive you." You need to imagine that with white paint you paint over all that evil that was between you. True forgiveness helps to start communication from scratch.
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Forgive yourself too, it will be easier for you to have a positive attitude towards a person. Often people live in opposition only because they themselves did something bad and provoked a negative attitude. A good deed in relation to a former enemy often dramatically changes the situation, not because you will be better treated. The situation is changing because being satisfied with your action, you yourself will become better at treating a person - and he will feel it.
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Then you need to take the most decisive step. Call your ill-wisher and tell him that, despite the fact that it’s still far from Forgiveness Sunday, you want to ask for forgiveness and compensate for all offenses. Explain that tense relationships torment you, and want to change them. Mention about the well-known virtues of a person (you wrote them down) and that this person taught you a lot. Thank your opponent and try to end the conversation. Few people will not touch such a conversation. Even if the first try fails, your relationship will improve and become easier.
So you can not only forgive and love a person, but also change his attitude in you. But it’s still easier to love those who reciprocate.