In order to defeat your anger, you need to clearly and clearly realize its harmful effects. Suppressing your anger is just as bad for your personality as splashing it out for the following reason: to suppress anger does not mean to get rid of it, anger remains inside you, destroying not only your soul, but the whole organism, provoking the development of many diseases - from the nervous system to the digestive system. You should not splash out your anger, because each time such flashes will gain strength, due to the progressive habit of discharge.
Instruction manual
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In cases where this feeling absorbs a person for reasons beyond his control, it is best to accept the situation as it is, since anyway you are unable to change anything. You can only change your attitude to the problem.
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But in many cases, the ability to correctly understand the situation that caused you to have an attack of rage will help you. For example, you took a loan from a bank, and the interest on the loan was much higher than you expected. The first thing you feel is anger at the bank employees. You blame them for the fact that you will have to pay much more than you expected. This is the position of the victim, and it will not lead to anything good. Try to look at the causes of your anger as the author of the problem. After all, when you signed the contract with the bank, you carefully read all the conditions set forth in it, which means that you created this situation yourself … and your anger is simply groundless. The ability to move from a victim’s position to an author’s position will save you from outbursts of anger, bad mood and irritability. In addition, you will receive a good lesson for the future.
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Many psychologists recommend an outbreak of anger to count to ten. Such a primitive, but popular method will distract you from the first, most emotional impulses, it will be easier to deal with irritation further.
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A more effective way is to get distracted by thoughts about what needs to be done today, and even better, to approach the issue with a sense of humor. Laughter (not bitter, sarcastic) and anger - emotions are incompatible and contradictory to each other, so to evoke positive emotions in oneself means to close the road to anger and anger. Finding ridiculous sides in situations that annoy you is an art that everyone can comprehend, you just need to get it right.
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Having found the right approach, over time you will feel that outbursts of rage become weaker and cover you less and less. Empty little things that until recently enraged you will seem to you not worthy of attention and expenditure of your mental strength. Anger recedes when you control it, analyze your behavior. Reason, sanity and a sense of humor, which you need to resort to in crisis situations, will help you with this.