Everyone has flaws, and harmfulness is often attributed to them. Nevertheless, the harmfulness of character is usually not a flaw, but a temporary property of a person, which is based on internal problems. It is very important to realize why you like to break down with others, to intentionally show sarcasm or anger and to make people in spite.
How do you feel when trying to be harmful?
In itself, harm is not a cause, but a consequence, so you need to fight not with it. It is necessary to determine what causes it. To get rid of the harm yourself, you need to start observing yourself. When you show a harmful character, what do you feel? As a rule, people have reasons to behave negatively towards others. This may be a bad relationship with a particular person, bad memories, selfishness or something else.
Analyze your life to identify factors that have made your behavior harmful. Perhaps you are experiencing hard pressure somewhere, and trying to recoup elsewhere.
How to deal with what is happening
To begin with, you should try to eliminate the cause of the harmfulness. This usually does not work right away, but you need to work in this direction. Also start monitoring your own behavior and adjusting it.
Usually, by harm is understood the desire to overtake others around. There are people who consider themselves right in any situation, but this is not enough for them, they constantly argue with others, proving their superiority. If this is your type of harmfulness, then do not argue with people. Just knowingly forbid yourself to argue, at least for a while. This does not mean that you need to agree with what you do not like, but if someone’s opinion does not coincide with yours, then try to avoid a collision. Just leave the person or keep silent.
Those whose harmfulness is manifested in the release of caustic comments to others often try in this way to create a kind of carapace for themselves. This is usually due to low self-esteem, self-doubt and fear of others. Work on it, appreciating and loving yourself is very important. Self-assertion due to humiliation of others is a bad way to love yourself.
It happens that a person becomes harmful, because he does not have the opportunity to apply his energy somewhere. In this case, find yourself a hobby or business to your liking. This will help you feel better, and also eliminate the need to splash energy in another way. A similar effect is also provided by sports.