Adolescence brings many problems not only to the child, in the body of which there are serious changes, but also to his parents. Quarrels, scandals, mutual misunderstanding often happen. How can parents safely survive this difficult teenage age of a son or daughter?
Instruction manual
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A teenager tries to escape from the custody of his father and mother, rejects their instructions, requests, often behaves demonstrably rudely. You can understand the discontent of parents. They gave their child so much time, effort, warmth, cared for him, raised him, and he suddenly became so rude, naughty and ungrateful. But father and mother should show understanding and wisdom, because the teenager is not to blame for the fact that a real hormonal "storm" is happening in his body. It is precisely because the adolescent endocrine system has earned in an accelerated mode, having begun to produce a large number of hormones, the behavior of the child is so dramatically changing.
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Parents should remember that they once were teenagers, causing their own fathers and mothers a lot of trouble, grief, worries. It makes no sense to complain about what is arranged by nature itself. You just need to be patient and wait. When the restructuring of the body is completed, their son or daughter will behave much smarter and calmer.
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When communicating with a teenager, one should avoid, if possible, a decisive, categorical tone. You should also not demand from him a constant report: where he was, with whom he met, what he did. A teenager with a probability of 99% will take this with hostility. Of course, it should be controlled that the teenager does not get in touch with a bad company, for example. But we must try to do it unobtrusively. After all, young people and girls of this age simply cannot stand excessive custody.
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If a teenager is very complex due to acne on his face or overweight, or because he (he thinks) is lonely, nobody needs him, nobody understands him, parents should not brush off his problems. And even more so it is impossible to make fun of: they say, what nonsense, you go crazy from idleness, we would need your care. It should be gently and delicately convincing him that everything can be fixed, that any problem can be solved if desired. The main thing is for the teenager to be sure that his parents love him, are always ready to listen, help.
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Of course, you can’t indulge a teenager in everything and meekly demolish his antics if they already cross all borders. If necessary, you need to strictly talk to him and even punish him. But in this case, one should not excessively infringe on the pride of a teenager, which is already very vulnerable. For example, you should not force him to apologize or swear that he will no longer behave this way.