Probably the most difficult experience in human life is the grief associated with the loss. Losing someone very close, people feel that the meaning of life is now lost. Joy disappears, an unbearable ringing emptiness is felt inside. But surviving the loss is possible. You will come back to life, although not immediately.
Stages of experiencing loss of loss
Of all the creatures that inhabit the planet, only people bury loved ones. This has a special meaning: all the departed live in the memory of their loved ones. The stages of experiencing mental pain can be described as follows:
- shock and denial. A person simply cannot believe what happened. What is happening seems unrealistic. The brain is protected by shock, so that the severity of the experience does not fall upon a person overnight. Anger may soon appear, which is produced so that negative emotions have a way out.
- disbelief and search. A person still cannot believe and is looking for a solution to the situation. It seems that it is worth turning around the corner, as the one you have lost will meet you, as if nothing had happened. Some sense of unreality of events persists. Usually this stage begins a few days after what happened.
- acute grief. This is the most difficult stage, during which one often wants to scream: “Help me survive the sorrow!”, Because the state seems completely hopeless, very painful and unclear how to deal with it. But the stage of acute grief does not last longer than 2-3 months. After them, emotions begin to subside, the pain of loss gradually decreases. This is a turning point in the experience.
- periodic returns of experiences. At this stage, the person seems to become the same, but from time to time still experiences acute experiences, they suddenly return, still very intense. Over time, they become less and less.
- completion of experiences. After some time, the acute pain goes away.
Despite the fact that the pain seems unbearable, you need to survive all stages of grief. Do not try to suppress emotions, come to terms with the fact that there is no shortcut on this road.