Lies almost always complicate relationships between people. However, lying to oneself complicates life itself. To engage in self-deception, pretending to be someone else or convincing yourself of something, means to move away from reality. To be honest with yourself and stop lying to yourself, you need to study yourself and your behavior.
Learn to say no
One of the main signs that a person is lying to himself is the habit of agreeing with people in everything. Such people feel obligated to say yes to any requests and suggestions from others. However, this behavior is self-deception. Agreeing in everything with others, a person sometimes takes on responsibilities that he can never fulfill. In addition, the habit of agreeing in everything leads to the fact that a person begins to use, others see his inability to refuse something. Learn to say no when necessary. So you let others understand what you really think, and also stop deceiving yourself.
Follow your thoughts about yourself
Stop trying to meet other people's expectations. Take care of yourself throughout the day. Pay attention to whether you are trying to adapt to someone, whether you are afraid to disappoint others. Such actions undermine your personality. Try not to say or do things that are contrary to your beliefs and interests. Do not do things only because others expect them from you. Do not try to be someone else or imitate anyone else. Stay on your own.
Protection mechanisms
Another sign of self-deception is the categorical defense of his point of view, which does not allow other opinions. If you always consider yourself right, you are deceiving yourself, you go into deep defense and do not listen to others. Such behavior turns one's own beliefs and value system into an instrument for achieving personal goals, which in no way contributes to honesty with oneself and others.
Do not exaggerate your abilities.
The habit of overestimating oneself and one's abilities is also a type of lie to oneself. It leads to the fact that a person burdens himself with duties that he cannot fulfill, but at the same time continues to claim that he is capable of anything. As a result, he cannot confirm his words with deeds and loses his reputation among those around him. Learn to recognize your vulnerability and not perfection. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Recognize the limitations of your abilities.