Doubts very often prevent a person from making the right choice. Disbelief in oneself, one’s skills, worries about how everything will turn out and the fear of failure do not allow one to look forward joyfully, and deprive of opportunities. But you can deal with all this, you just need to learn how to look at the situation from different angles.
Instruction manual
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Doubts arise at times when you need to make choices and make decisions. And if the prospects are not clear or there is no clear goal, many negative feelings may arise. Usually at this moment I want to ask another person for advice, to know the opinions of others, but do they really know better? It is important to learn how to cope with this condition yourself.
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Start by asking yourself: why do I need this? For example, you are offered to move to a new position, but you doubt that you will cope with obligations, that you will meet the expectations of management. Do not worry, but ask yourself why you need this new job. If this is the place that really makes your life better, then you can handle it. You can learn, improve qualifications, find a common language with the team. When there is motivation, everything else goes by the wayside. And if your answer is difficult, if you do not need it, then you should immediately refuse.
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Unrest and doubt can be removed through awareness of failure. Think about what happens if you fail? Better write answers on a piece of paper. Fear arises of the unknown, but if you understand what can happen, everything will be easier. Write all the negative points that are possible, pay attention to even the little things. And then look at them carefully. Are they really that scary? Before public speaking, people often have doubts about their abilities, but if they write what can happen, they understand that this is nonsense. Failure can only cause smiles in the hall or falling asleep of several people, but is it really scary?
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In order not to doubt, you need to have the necessary knowledge. Start training, read books, listen to or watch seminars, improve yourself by any means. Doing any thing, making a decision will be much easier if you have the knowledge and skills. You can prepare for a speech, for a new job, for a presentation or defense of a diploma. And the more you gather knowledge and practice, the better you will get.
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Refuse to communicate with those who do not believe in your strength. Do not discuss your plans with them, do not talk about work. Do not let anyone inspire doubt in you, rely only on your knowledge. People are not inclined to believe in the success of others, and some even specifically speak of negative consequences, because they themselves have not achieved anything and do not want others to be effective. Choose a circle of acquaintances, focus only on the words of those who inspire hope in you.