All people have strengths and weaknesses. When they “hurt the living, ” each person reacts differently: someone imperceptibly transfers the conversation to another topic, and some are offended and stop talking. How to deal with resentment?
Instruction manual
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Pay attention to yourself - what exactly offends you. Identify your "sore spots." Take it for granted that there are no perfect people, and you may have weaknesses and weaknesses. Learn to love and value yourself as you are.
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Turn your flaws into virtues. Avoid unconstructive criticism and self-incrimination. Many minor flaws can be turned into individual features. Later, they will be associated with others as individual traits that add charm to your personality.
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Turn your attention to achievements. Sensitive people pay great attention to their shortcomings and other people's opinions. Develop your abilities and focus on personal success. Show the best qualities in communication and appreciate your own point of view.
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Do not be silent. Express your feelings openly. As a rule, touchy people keep their emotions in themselves and do not speak directly about their experiences. Nevertheless, in most cases, the interlocutor can offend also unintentionally: an unpleasant statement to an ironic person seems like a funny joke, and he gladly encounters such sarcasm in his address. So that someone’s offensive behavior does not go into the system, it must be emphasized that such a manner of communication is unacceptable to you.
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Do not give the rights of others to control your life. If the offender deliberately continues to create unpleasant situations and violate your interests, you must put him in his place or stop communication.
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When it is impossible to avoid contact with offenders, learn to ignore and not take them seriously. Disagreements can be with relatives, classmates or superiors. They need to find a special approach: somewhere in response to joke in a manner similar to them, and in some cases, simply take for granted and "temporary nonsense."
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Strive to respond differently. Resentment, disappointment, anger and self-reliance are the result of a habit of uniform behavior. If you are purposefully striving to unbalance, take it as a game: you have received a challenge who will last longer and win. Stay calm and try to say something offensive in response. Sometimes "wedge wedge wedge."
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Learn to forgive. Under the influence of resentment, attention switches from one's life goals to another person and his negative attitude. It is simply not beneficial for you. Think good and focus on implementing your plans. Let the offender be left alone with his anger, and more important things await you.