Obsessive thoughts about the past that haunt the person and prevent him from enjoying the present can bring him to a nervous breakdown. In addition, the loop on past events does not allow a realistic assessment of what is happening at present. How to stop thinking about the past?
Instruction manual
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Formulate for yourself the answer to the question: why are you so attached to the past? This may be due to the fact that the past was beautiful, and you are afraid that no future can be compared with it. Or, conversely, bad events have occurred in the past, and it seems to you that they overlap with the present, making life unbearable.
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If the first option is closer to you, try to realize that life will turn in the direction you want to turn it. If your option is the second, then you should know that a repetition of the past is possible only if the situation is completely recreated, which was then. Moreover, the individuals participating in this event should be at the same level of intellectual, physical and moral development, as at that time. Which, of course, is impossible.
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The past is a person’s experience, his life. Based on the past years, you form the present. But at the same time, the past should not prevent you from living today and now. To get rid of obsessive thoughts, try using a psychological technique, which can be called "Archiving of the past."
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For exercise, set aside free time in which you will not be disturbed. Sit down and calmly remember those events of the past, which thoughts annoy you.
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Imagine your brain is a supercomputer. Create a folder on the hard drive of this computer called Past. Mentally place in it those events whose memories do not allow you to live in the present.
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Put memories in a folder slowly, carefully. Try not to forget anything. After filling, squeeze it with the archiver to the smallest size.
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Then create the folder "Real". Put in it the most important and significant files at the moment: "Child", "Parents", "Dreams", "Work", "Success", etc.
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Whenever thoughts of the past begin to appear, remember the archived folder in the far corner of the memory, but open the important folder with the present lying on the "Desktop".
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Of course, access to memories of the past, if necessary, should be. Continue to fill the "Present" folder with new files, and obsolete ones - send to the archive.
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For the proposed technique to be effective, you will have to make an effort and accurately follow all the recommendations. But without work on oneself, progress is impossible. And do not let the past build the future, as this is the work of the present!
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