To begin with, you should ask yourself: is it necessary to stop being gay? After all, homosexuality is not a disease, it is extremely rarely associated with mental disorders (egodistonia). And the society, in this case Russian, does not become more tolerant, but it also rarely shows aggression towards gays. However, the cases are different. It is necessary - it means it is necessary.
Instruction manual
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Ask yourself one last thing: do you really want to try a traditional relationship? Do not answer immediately. Consider age, homosexual experience, remember when and under what circumstances you realized that you are gay, whether your loved ones are ready for such changes, and whether you yourself are ready to experience some inconvenience due to the fact that a change in sexual orientation will entail a change in image life?
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Given that homosexuality is not only gay sex, but a full range of feelings, start by trying to express sympathy for people of the opposite sex. It will be difficult at first, but do not immediately try to treat a woman as a woman. Try to get interested in her as a person. Look in it for something that you definitely like and does not correlate with gender in any way.
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Behavior, including sexual behavior, balances between three areas: instincts, emotions and mind. Sexual attraction is pure instinct, love is the emotion that strengthens it, relationships are a reasonable settlement of emotions and instincts. The opposite also happens: the mind is not able to restrain neither emotions nor instincts. Deal with yourself. Although a man is a primate, he is still not an animal; sometimes it is better to think than to follow feelings. Especially if they are caused, for example, by a fashion for everything forbidden (gays are not by birth, but "by the order of the time" are quite common).
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Change the cultural background. LGBT mass culture often resembles a sect: films for gays, clothes for gays, perfumes for gays, etc. Refuse self-presentation as a person of non-traditional orientation. Being met by clothes, you can quickly and easily reconfigure the mind.
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If long-term attempts to influence your own sexual orientation do not bring tangible results, stop and, if necessary, return to them no earlier than six months or a year later. During this time, you will have more than one opportunity to weigh the pros and cons and to affirm or cancel the choice made earlier.
note
Attempts to change sexual orientation can lead to neurosis, therefore, before taking independent steps, it would be useful to consult a psychologist.
Useful advice
If you are a gay and devout person, go to confession and speak with your confessor. Maybe he will give some extraordinary advice that will affect your views. However, remember that in most monotheistic religions, it is believed that God created people equal and loves everyone equally.
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