A person may be offended. This is an unpleasant feeling that affects the way of thinking and causes negative emotions. Resentment can last for years or pass instantly, arise suddenly or build up like a snowball, be superficial or affect "to the depths of the soul." Sometimes it leaves an imprint for life. To avoid the negative consequences of resentment, you need to learn how to deal with it.
Instruction manual
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For some people, to make it easier to bear the grudge, you just need to talk it out. You need to find a person who can listen without interrupting or judging. The main thing is that he helps to calm down and does not escalate even greater disappointment in the offender. Just do not abuse kindness. Sometimes it’s enough to shout out at an object, presenting its offender in its place. But just do not use a mirror for this purpose. You can do this in the forest in front of the tree. If you handle the most unbearable, some resort to the help of a psychologist. This technique is more like an extrovert.
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Introvert closer "pouring" their feelings on paper. Moreover, during the letter you need to contact the offender directly. It is necessary to describe the cause of your anger. Lay out everything you think about him. It doesn't matter how much time and paper it takes. Write until thoughts run out and a feeling of "emptiness" appears. Then get rid of your grievances by destroying the written paper. You can choose the method yourself, you burn a leaf or tear it and scatter it in the wind. The main thing is to get rid of resentment together with ink.
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To consolidate the effect, write a message of thanks. No wonder they say: "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." Write how you are grateful to the offender for the lesson provided, which helped you become more resilient. Fold the message and do the same as with the first. After this, you should be overtaken by a feeling of calm.
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The famous American writer - Louise Hay, having become ill with cancer, admitted that the reason for this could be her resentment towards a cruel fate. Refusing traditional treatment, she changed her lifestyle and learned forgiveness. Now she is healthy. The method is to relax in a comfortable atmosphere and introduce yourself to the theater. On the scene of which is your offender. He is happy and smiling. After watching him, after a while make him disappear, and in his place imagine yourself. Your face shines with happiness, you are joyful, carefree. Remember yourself like that. Daily sessions will make you calmer, and resentment will melt.
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Believers who live with God in their souls are very rarely offended. No wonder they say: "Save your heart from insults." Everyone will receive according to his deeds. But still, when this happens, you need to pray. About the salvation of your soul and those who annoy you. It’s a sin on their conscience. Your thoughts should remain clear.
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There are people who are very difficult to offend. Quite often they translate everything into humor. They know how to laugh at themselves and their actions. It’s easier for such lucky people. Maybe it’s better not to be offended and it’s easier to relate to the actions and words of others? Then you don’t have to think about how to experience grief.