One of the most painful, painful trials for a person is the death of family and friends. It is always difficult to survive, especially if death suddenly overtakes a young man in the prime of life, and even more so a small child. Here a grievous injustice is added to the grief: yes, everyone is mortal, but why so early! In such cases, relatives and friends often can’t come to terms with the harsh reality, come to their senses. Their grief is so strong that they suffer for many years, sometimes they talk with the deceased, as if with the living.
Instruction manual
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Yes, it’s very difficult for you now. But try to call common sense, logic. Inspire yourself: "The irreparable has already happened. Tears and sorrow cannot fix anything." Think about who would be better off if you hopelessly undermine your health or psyche? Certainly not your family and friends. You must pull yourself together, if only for the sake of preserving the memory of the deceased.
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Very often, such a painful experience is the result of guilt. For example, you offended the deceased with something or did not give him due attention, care. Now you are constantly remembering this, you are tormented by belated repentance, tormented by remorse. This is understandable and natural. But again, think: even if you are truly to blame for the dead, is sorrow the best atonement? There are so many people around who need help. Do something for them, help. Make amends with good deeds. You will find where to exert your strength. This, by the way, will help to distract from painful thoughts, torment.
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If you are a believing Christian, try to find solace in religion. Indeed, according to Christian canons, only the body is mortal - a mortal shell, and the soul is immortal. In those cases when you are very upset by the death of a child, remember the words: "Whom the Lord loves, He calls to him early." And also, that the soul of a child will surely go to heaven.
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Pray for the deceased, often bring memorial notes to the church. If you feel that you are still not able to let him go, be sure to talk with the priest. Feel free to ask all the questions that concern you, for which you want to get an answer. Even this: "If God is really good and just, why did this happen?" Often, in order to calm down, first you just need to talk it out.
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Try to convince yourself with this argument: "He loved me, he would be very saddened if he saw me suffer, suffer." Sometimes it helps. There is another good way - head to work. The more time and effort it takes, the less they remain on painful thoughts.