Living in a constant race to meet someone’s invented ideals, experiencing, constantly improving yourself and everything else is disastrously difficult, as well as constantly worrying about a vague future or tasks whose solution is now unclear. Letting go of the situation - how is it?
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The advice “let go of the situation” can be heard quite often. At the same time they say: "Relax, do not fuss, let everything go as it should." And there is some pragmatism in this, but
.If the problem is urgent for a person, it gnaws at him, everything reminds of it, and you can fall asleep and wake up for a long time with only one thought: how to get out, what to do. In this case, the energy is spent more on experiencing and “running in a circle”, but a person can’t pull himself together, stop and just not think. So what do they mean when they say “let go of the situation”?
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Unfortunately, the level of empathy is not well developed for everyone. Saying “let go of the situation”, the interlocutor from the outside can see the redundancy of your experiences, but fail to or even don’t even try to enter your state, understand its reasons, and be imbued with your pain. By and large, he does not care, and maybe his own plans for the next dinner occupy him much more. But what do you do?
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In addition to the incident that worries you so much, there are probably many other things, problems and events in your life. Engage in them, think about them, do not allow yourself to sag in a pool of your own fears and insecurities. Let it be even the smallest everyday tasks - do it as if at the moment nothing else matters, with full dedication.
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But, of course, it just won’t be able to dismiss the problem: for a long time without finding a solution, it can exhaust you, lead to a nervous breakdown or even insanity. If you think that you cannot cope with the situation yourself, seek the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist. There is nothing shameful in this - on the contrary, now it is considered even fashionable.
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If you are sure that you can understand yourself and curb your feelings, start working on yourself in this direction. Describe the situation as you see it, as well as your emotions and feelings. At the same time, you can imagine that you are telling all this to a loved one who understands you. Include an inner parent who accepts you as you are, fully supports you and wants to help you. Tell him in color what happened, as if a child who had injured his finger complained to his mom or dad.
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Next, turn on positive thinking and get creative. Begin to think up for yourself possible solutions to the situation, you can even the most fantastic. So your brain will be busy with business and will not stand idle (and for him it's oh how difficult), attention will be no longer in the negative, but in a positive way. In addition, your imagination can be so full that it will even amuse you or at least calm you down.