The outcome of the dispute most often determines the impartiality of one of the participants. A cold head allows you to choose the best arguments, as well as bring the most convincing arguments. However, staying cool in a dispute is not so easy.
To stay cool, you should not give in to emotions. In a dispute, this is very difficult to do, especially if the person you are talking to does not even try to listen to you. Getting lost in this situation is incredibly simple: you just have to go a bit on your emotions. To avoid this, try to maintain self-control. Carefully analyze your thoughts, be ironic about any comments and attacks, do not be afraid to repeat what was said.
Breathe right
Self-control resembles muscle. The more actively he is involved, the weaker he becomes with time. Therefore, if at the beginning of the dispute you could adequately respond to your opponent, then towards the end there is a strong desire to break loose and scream. The prefrontal cortex is responsible for self-control. It is on its activity that composure is more dependent.
The best way to escape from unnecessary emotions and regain control is through breathing. A fast rhythm helps to activate muscle activity, a slow rhythm helps cerebral activity. Therefore, if you feel that you are beginning to get irritated and follow the lead of another participant in the dispute, then just slow down your breathing. Take a few deep breaths. Try to keep the breathing cycle longer each time.
Count
Another way to quickly restore self-control and an unbiased attitude to the dispute is to count. This mechanism does not yet have an accurate scientific interpretation, but it is customary to think that counting helps the brain to structure its activities. If your head is mess or complete chaos, then the bill is the best solution.
First, count to ten. You can combine this technique with breathing. For example, inhale for 3-4 counts, and then exhale for another 5-6. This will allow you to briefly distract and recover. Do not be too distracted by the account, otherwise you can lose the essence of the conversation.