Aggression is a form of behavior in which one person demonstrates strength, assertiveness, superiority to another. Often this behavior is accompanied by the use of physical force and the desire to cause damage. The fact is that in each person there is a certain share of this quality. Its absence makes a person passive, and too vivid manifestation - conflict. In many cases, aggressive behavior can be stopped.
Instruction manual
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First of all, learn to manage your own emotions. This will help you choose the right line of behavior if aggression is shown towards you. It is important to learn in time to extinguish unwanted aggression, to restrain it, to direct it in a different direction. If you feel her attacks too often, find a way to discharge, for example, playing sports, especially command and extreme forms of it.
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Try to understand the motives for aggression by another person. In what case, for what reason, for what purpose does a person begin to behave this way. If this is a reaction to a situation, to a stressful state, then it will pass as life circumstances change. At the moment, try to show understanding and do not exacerbate the conflict.
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But if this is a constant, habitual state of a person with whom you have to communicate, you need to develop a protection system. Some people knowingly use aggression to achieve their goals, increase adrenaline, get vivid emotions, and even the elementary one - to assert oneself. If you can correctly understand the motives for another person to display aggression, you can develop a protective mechanism for yourself.
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If collisions with an aggressive person cannot be avoided, then change your own position in relation to him: take a seat next to him or to the side. But do not get up opposite. And it’s best to take a few steps from the aggressor, so you can get away from the excited person. If you feel a threat of physical aggression, avoid meeting his eyes or take a short look. Take a “time out” under the pretext of what you need to think about.
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Do not scream in response to his or her scream, on the contrary, speak quieter, calmer and slower, but try to avoid very strong contrast in the way you speak.
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Remember the famous phrase: "attack is the best defense." It is an active role in such situations. Be confident. Try to switch your attention. You can suddenly ask a partner about something. For example: “Pour me a glass of water” or “I'm sorry to interrupt, but I have a question.” Moreover, the question should not be connected with the cause of aggression.
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Define a rule for yourself: no one is allowed to be rude and show such a form of behavior towards you. In response to aggression, alternate a soft and hard strategy of behavior. Try not to show unnecessary and uncontrollable aggressive reaction yourself, and avoid talking with such people.