The most popular reason that spouses indicate when divorcing is the dissimilarity of characters. Often, this hides the inability of partners to find a common language, to listen and understand each other. Family psychologists advise discussing emerging issues more with each other, rather than quarreling and offending.
Instruction manual
one
If in a conversation with your husband you want to explain that he is wrong, then get ready to calmly and carefully convey to him your point of view, of which you must be 100% certain. Get ready for a conversation, think over logical evidence. In a dispute, do not raise your voice, do not go to the person and, especially, to insults. Show respect for your opponent and demand the same attitude towards yourself.
2
Be confident and don’t provoke your husband, exclude the phrase: “I want to prove my case” or “I want to argue with you.” They immediately set him up for opposition and are perceived as a challenge, after which he feels that he must express the opposite point of view and uphold it. Better to say: "Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think
, because
3
You can unobtrusively force him to read the evidence that you are right, online or in print. Give specific examples of what exactly you are right. If, for example, we are talking about legal nuances, give a link to the relevant laws.
4
Almost all sources of your literary or historical disputes, others, where your points of view on a fact diverge, you can easily find using Internet search engines and not bring the matter to stupid conflicts. It’s not worth it to argue on every occasion, it’s better to just keep silent, but then, with the convincing evidence, return to this topic.
5
Do not make an argument out of an argument to prove your superiority. When explaining, show that you are ready to listen to his evidence or refutation of your words. You should not show full confidence in your innocence, even if you know that this is so. Keep the conversation discreet, without prejudice to male pride. In this case, his agreement with your arguments will not seem to surrender.
6
And do not start disputes if you are not sure of your innocence. If your husband faces several times in a row that you are arguing, not being right, he will cease to perceive you as an authority, and will not take your attempts to convince him seriously.