Teenager. … Already not a small child, but not yet an adult. Explosive, uncontrollable, unbalanced - it's all about them, about teenagers. An affectionate and attentive son suddenly in the eyes of his parents turns into a prickly cynic.
Such a transformation causes confusion among loved ones. Parents are frightened by the deliberate rudeness of adolescents, they do not know how to communicate with a teenager, how to react to their provocative and shocking tricks. You must understand that the rudeness of a teenager is a kind of defense reaction, allowing him to hide his weaknesses, overcome shyness and awkwardness.
Parents in this difficult period should stock up with extraordinary patience and show miracles of wisdom. To maintain a sincere dialogue with the child, you must try to hear it. After all, the most vulnerable, vulnerable and defenseless member of your family is your own teenage child.
How to communicate with a teenager, if it seems that all the forces of parents are simply running out?
- Draw a mental line between your emotions and words to maintain dialogue and peace in the family.
- Show restraint and do not respond to the rudeness of the teenager with parental rudeness, do not go to a cry and do not allow assault in relation to the teenager.
- But rudeness and rudeness of a teenager should not be taken for granted by parents. He should clearly understand that the deprivation of his pocket money or the ban on attending a disco is a direct consequence of his inadmissible attitude towards adults. Otherwise, his abusive behavior will seem to him the norm.
- If the child behaves defiantly when communicating with you, then invite him to postpone the conversation to a later date. Let the child calm down, cool down and think about their behavior. You will also have free minutes to meaningfully prepare for the upcoming conversation.
- Parents should not switch to youth slang at all in order to gain credibility with their child. The easily injured teenager can see in this attempt to insult, ridicule. And the consequences of a teenager’s reaction are impossible to predict.
A difficult teenage period will pass, as everything passes in this world. The most important thing for parents is to be able to maintain a warm and trusting relationship with a teenage child who will very soon become an adult.
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