If you start to worry about a harsh word addressed to you or from a justified remark by the boss, you close yourself and start self-digging and self-flagellation, you should think about self-esteem.
Instruction manual
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Self-esteem is a degree of spiritual and physical organization of your personality. It reflects the level of self-esteem and self-esteem. In other words, what requirements do you set for yourself and what kind of life you want for yourself, and, accordingly, how much you fulfill them and allow yourself what you want. It follows that self-esteem is a subjective category.
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Based on the foregoing, determine your ideal. Write on paper what kind of life you want to live. Think carefully and fix each item. First of all, write down what qualities you want to possess, what to achieve.
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When the image is created, switch to yourself. What prevents you from becoming the way you want to be? Perhaps you: 1) Underestimate your self-esteem, do not respect (ignore) your needs, do not feel your core, which you can rely on.
2) Your self-esteem is not underestimated, you know what you want, but you do not have enough will to achieve your goals.
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It is worth figuring out what caused such a low self-esteem. To do this in reality is much more difficult than to write on paper. The older your problem (clamp), the more confused and difficult to understand. In addition, you should now change the negative attitude to the opposite. Love yourself. To do this, every day force yourself to fulfill at least one of your desires, contrary to all - fighting yourself. Gradually increase the number of desires (by feelings). Find and repeat affiliations (remember "I am the most charming and attractive
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if there is not enough willpower, work on yourself, develop strong-willed qualities. Set a goal: to carry out at least one difficult task for you every day. also visualize your future success.
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General recommendations:
• Analyze everything you do in terms of your desired image. Learn to understand the lessons of positive and negative experience, and letting go of emotions from it.
• Record all unfinished business. Finish what you want to complete, and everything else - cross out and forget.
• Keep your body and mind clean. At least do some sports and creativity. This will strengthen inner strength.
• Do not self-flagellate, but direct your efforts to your development.
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When you understand what you are striving for, you will realize what you are missing for a full life. You will be able to achieve this, and this will cause self-esteem, increase self-esteem. And you will gain self-esteem, which will determine the quality of your life.
Useful advice
Do not take other people's ideals. Each person has his own path and level of development. Listen carefully to yourself. Do not follow anyone, except when a person has the same qualities that you strive for. Otherwise, you will never be satisfied with yourself, you will have nothing to be proud of, you will not have an internal rod on which dignity rests.