Gossip is one of the most unpleasant costs of living in society. A person does not feel too comfortable when the bones are washed behind him. Someone's physical and mental condition may well deteriorate quite noticeably if they are afraid that they will start to fuss about him. And someone lives, not paying attention to what they say about him.
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To understand how to ignore gossip, it’s nice to first clarify for yourself why people gossip at all? In fact, gossip is an integral part of human communication, and here's why.
A person lives in society, or rather, is a member of several more or less large communities or social groups. This is a school class, and a student group, and a working team, a company of friends and even a family. A person is arranged in such a way that he likes to communicate with those who are most similar to himself: he adheres to the same views, moral and ethical attitudes, belongs to the same social layer with him, and even has a certain external similarity (racial and ethnic characteristics, the way he dresses and etc.).
Naturally, there are no and cannot be the same people. But in each community, there is a majority of individuals with the greatest number of such similarities. If there is someone who is too much different from others, they begin to discuss and condemn him.
So maybe the only way to avoid gossip is to be “like everyone else”, i.e. demonstrate the traits and qualities inherent in most members of a particular social group? Yes, in this case there is much less chance of being condemned and debated. But this way is not too good.
Firstly, each person will always find something that is not accepted and negatively evaluated by the majority of members of a social group, thus, no person can be absolutely protected from gossip.
And secondly, social groups are different, and each of them has its own "norms", which means that, moving from group to group, you will have to constantly adapt to the requirements of each of them. This is where the direct path to constant stress and depression is!
But if gossip cannot be stopped, you need to learn not to react to them too sharply. How to do it?