A person who holds a negative within himself spoils his life. To accumulate insults in yourself and to worry for a long time that you were upset is pointless. Work on yourself and take control of your emotions.
Instruction manual
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Make it easier to relate to negative events in your life. Perhaps sometimes you dramatize the situation and attach too much importance to annoying little things. If any careless word or lack of proper attention causes you to be offended for a long time, this is not normal. Be objective. Think about whether the event that bothers you so much is so important or whether you are making your life difficult.
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Limit communication with individuals who constantly offend and upset you. Refuse meetings with unpleasant acquaintances, avoid close contact with incorrect colleagues. So in your life there will be less negative. The mood will improve. Unpleasant moments will not get stuck in memory. If at the same time you let go and forget past grievances, life is as if it will begin anew. You will feel incredible inner freedom.
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Do not expect too much from people. Maybe you are of a very good opinion about some individuals, and any deviation from the image that you created in your head really hurts you. Do not idealize others. On the contrary, prepare yourself for the fact that people can be in a bad mood and are evil, rude, aggressive and tactless. There will be no disappointments - there will be no big grievances.
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Think about why you are so badly affected by other people's words and actions. Maybe your self-esteem is too low, and any phrase that can be misinterpreted reminds you of your shortcomings. No wonder then that you remember the bad for so long. However, it is not a matter of people, but more of yourself. When you yourself understand and accept, then someone's assessment will not mean too much to you. Be honest with yourself and decide if you sometimes think of people. Perhaps they did not mean anything bad, and because of self-doubt you were offended by ordinary words.
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Learn to splash out negativity. This is necessary for your psychological comfort, and for physical health. Negative energy received from others can be directed into the constructive channel. Do some physical work. You will see how much the matter will be argued, because the negative is a big force, you only need to use it correctly. Of course, it’s better not to take offenses from outside at all. To do this, you can use one of the visualization methods, for example, imagine that all unflattering words go into the toilet, or that a solid wall is built between you and the offender.