Negative emotions are not only characteristic of human nature, but also necessary. For example, to train the “muscles” of generosity, confidence, understanding, determination, forgiveness, gratitude. Just negative emotions should not be allowed to dominate, they need to be skillfully managed.
How do they arise
In the occurrence of negativity, one should not look for the cause, or rather, confuse the cause and reason. Often, the cause is called some kind of event - rudeness in the store, deuce of the child, overtime work of her husband. In fact, this is an occasion, and the true reason lies in you - in your insecurity, in high expectations and fear of loneliness.
Start the fight
Negative emotions are fleeting. With most of them, the subconscious mind can easily cope. But sometimes you are “stuck” in the negative - for hours, weeks, and even years you think about a situation that has become an occasion for him.
Negative emotions are the first reaction to a stimulus. Their people feel not only on the spiritual level, but also on the physical. During negative emotions in the body, the normal heart rhythm, respiration changes, certain hormones are secreted, and so on. That is, the body is under stress. And to overcome it, you can resort to breathing exercises. In some situations, physical activity saves. More effort will be required to overcome negative thoughts. Indeed, it is precisely thoughts that plague us. Sometimes you can retire and shout, beat a pillow, beat dishes, draw a portrait of the offender and throw him darts. Psychological rituals are effective, during which the negative must first be materialized and then destroyed. For someone, it would be more acceptable option to distract, change the situation, treat yourself to something pleasant.
Guide to action
To overcome negative thoughts and their consequences, it is important to understand a few simple truths.
- Never make decisions under the influence of bad thoughts and negative emotions. Try to regain your composure first and only then act.
- Look for the causes of what is happening in yourself. It is better to take the blame and end the confrontation than to continue to uphold your innocence and continue the war.
- Do not give reasons for negative emotions yourself. If someone is annoyed by your presence alone, do not seek location, it is better to just leave.