In life, a person communicates with a variety of people. Some give positive emotions, others take away emotional and emotional energy, but somehow they all bring something to our life, teach something.
Instruction manual
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It often happens that when communicating there is an absolute mismatch between two people, different thoughts, opinions and ways of expressing them. An emotional and susceptible person for a long time later experiences this situation, ponders and carries it in himself. He understands that this negatively affects him, but he can not understand and accept the other person as he is.
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Worst of all, when a person feels such aversion towards a close acquaintance or relative, because you need to communicate further, but there is no understanding. To learn to react more calmly and accept other people, you need to try to follow a few rules in life.
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We must accept the fact that all people are different. If a person begins to argue, this is not because he wants to spoil the relationship, but only because he is sincerely convinced of his innocence. It does not make sense to convince him; this should be done only in the most extreme cases, when the principle of principle is the highest. But one has only to accept the fact that the thinking of all people is completely different, as it becomes easier to perceive someone else's wrong point of view.
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The same goes for other people's habits. You can’t retrain your colleague to talk quietly on the phone or force your spouse to put a dirty plate in the dishwasher immediately. You can only accept the fact that for them this action is the norm, and to be nervous about this or not is everyone's choice.
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It is necessary to continue to be respectful even to that person whom there is nothing to respect. If it does not fit into the general picture of the world and generally accepted rules, you need to understand that the rules are also very subjective. For someone to throw a cigarette butt is unacceptable, but someone will not hesitate to steal.
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To accept a person always as he is means to stop expecting something from him. When you do not expect anything from another person and treat exactly everyone around you, there will be less disappointment in life. We must try to accept, as an axiom, that a person is not bad, but just different. In this case, a wise saying: “Nobody owes anything to anyone” helps some people.
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Another important rule on the path to accepting other people is self-love. Having accepted himself as nature intended and parents embodied, with all the advantages and disadvantages, a person changes his attitude to people around him, learns to look at the shortcomings of others easier. Then there will be less frustration in life, and the nervous system will remain for many years.