Correctly perceiving criticism means looking for a constructive component in it and using the information received for self-improvement. Work on yourself to respond correctly to the comments of others.
Instruction manual
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Do not make excuses in response to criticism. If the appeal to you is constructive and essentially fair, find the courage to admit your own mistakes. When the other person criticizes you undeservedly, your arguments will still not help to rectify the situation, and maybe even exacerbate it. No need to shake the air in vain. Consciousness of one's own right is quite enough.
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In response to unfair criticism, it is important to remain calm. Understand the situation, check with the individual, what exactly does not suit him in your behavior. Learn to engage in dialogue so that the offender understands the absurdity of his accusations. To do this, it is necessary to move from emotions to logical thinking and sound reasoning. If you are right, the opponent’s accusations will be shattered.
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Be able to distinguish a fair part of the remark from unfounded accusations. You can agree with the first, but you do not need to accept the second. And it’s better to start with what you agree with the interlocutor. So you set him up for a constructive dialogue, and it will be easier for you to show him what he is wrong with.
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Remember, aggression in response to criticism will not lead to anything good, especially if the remark is true. Take note of the opinions of others and try to adjust your own behavior. Do not close your eyes to obvious things. If at heart you at least somewhat agree with the words of the individual, accept them. Sometimes from the side you can better see the mistakes and shortcomings of other people. Use the information obtained to determine the zone of future personal growth.
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Accept the right to exist of the point of view of another individual. Some people believe that they alone are always right. Do not be like them. There is no one recognized correct pattern of behavior. If a person thinks about you not too well, he must have personal motives for this. With this approach, you can benefit from any criticism - fair and not very.
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The most difficult thing is to choose the right reaction to criticism received from loved ones. If the opinion of acquaintances, colleagues or strangers in general can not be taken to heart, the accusations of relatives and loved ones hurt him. You always need to understand why a loved one thought of you like that. Even if criticism is highly unfair, it is a signal that something has gone wrong in your relationship. Think about why a person doubts you or suspects something. It may well be that the matter is not in you, but in the personal problems of your own person. In this case, you need to understand which ones and help him.
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Keep in mind that criticism should not affect your self-esteem. You may or may not accept it, but you cannot change your opinion of yourself for the worse because of someone’s remark. In conversation with the critic, keep calm and goodwill. So you will grow both in him and in your own eyes. Do not lose your dignity.