Contradictions in the surrounding world are not enjoyable, but tolerable. Worse, when the contradictions seem to come from within and cause a constant stream of thoughts that do not end with conclusions about possible solutions to the problem that is tormenting. What to do when you get confused about yourself and can't figure it out?
Instruction manual
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First, find conflicting attitudes that conflict. Often, internal conflict arises due to externally given attitudes that contradict human needs. Most often, two external orientations conflict, which the psyche perceives as its own. For example, a girl wants to have a slim figure and at the same time be able to cook very tasty. The first requires a half-starved existence, the second - a great culinary practice with tasting. The goal, it seems, is one - to become a good wife, that is, attractive in appearance and able to pave the way to a man’s heart through his stomach.
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However, these attitudes conflict, and the girl in question rushes to extremes. Then even bulimia can occur, which is very harmful to physical and mental health. The problem is that attitudes are perceived as important equally. Set your priorities wisely and decide how important these components are to your goal. In this case, it is better to acquire culinary knowledge and skills, because a slender body can be formed in a few months (if the situation is not critical). But the ability to cook tasty and varied is acquired over the years and is valued more at the stage of long-term relationships than a slender figure. In general, each problem needs to be considered in each situation in a special way - if a girl plans to marry a millionaire, then external data will matter more.
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Secondly, often behind one problem is a carefully hidden other, and the contradiction is just a screen so that a person does not get to the bottom of the real problem, because its awareness is very painful. For example, in a girl who wants to marry a rich man and reflects on a figure and cooking, she lives in deep self-doubt as a professional, in her abilities. And reflections on the figure cover up the fact that she does not believe in herself and so far does not know how to work.
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Therefore, honestly answer your questions - what exactly do you want to get, what beliefs come from when thinking about a problem, and how true your concepts are (you need to look for information not in yourself, but in books, newspapers, the Internet). So it will be possible to find conflicting attitudes and place them in importance, for the identified main goal. And at the same time think about how much you need to achieve the goal for you. Many may need to be redefined. But this will eliminate the contradictions.