It's no secret that pregnancy changes a woman. These changes are painful not only for herself, but also for the spouse, who often is not ready for such a turn of events. In this situation, not only the expectant mother, but also the future father should prepare for the appearance of the baby.
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Of course, a man, upon learning the news of future fatherhood, to put it mildly, panic. Responsibility puts pressure on him as the father of the family, and the future dad tries to strengthen his position in the family in every possible way. Some grow a beard, begin repairs, try to change jobs. Of course, change is needed. The financial situation in the family will change (mommy will leave work for an indefinite period), the lifestyle will radically change for a baby.
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One of the most common mistakes is the desire of future fathers to be like mothers. This is not true. Dads interact with the baby in a completely different way and complement, rather than “insure, ” the young mother. Already at 4 weeks of age, the baby is actively responding to the appearance of his father and understands who is mom and who is dad. He recognizes dad, makes faces, arches, shows interest in playing with dad.
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Despite the fact that in most European countries, the participation of the father in childbirth and activities for pregnant women has already become very popular, it is still very common that the future fathers are completely isolated from their beloved during pregnancy. In this situation, support is needed not only for a pregnant woman, but also for a bewildered man.
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First of all, spouses need to strive to talk about the unborn baby as often as possible, together to be interested in the phases of the fetal development, to study literature for pregnant women (this is much more fun than it seems at first glance).
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Secondly, it is necessary to ignore each other's nervousness, not focusing on the fact that one of the partners is doing something wrong, behaving too actively or passively. Support each other in this difficult situation.
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The most important thing is that dad needs to decide what role he is ready to play in raising a baby? What household chores is ready to take on? What will strive after the appearance of a son or daughter and what example will show the child?
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In general, the expectation of happy fatherhood is the most suitable period in order to strengthen marital ties, to better understand your partner and to reconsider your views on life.