There are people whose problems of friends, acquaintances, and even relatives cause a not very good feeling - gloating. Yes, they may be ashamed to admit it to themselves, but they feel real pleasure from the fact that someone left the family or sits without a penny. How to stop gloating in those moments when others fall into difficult life situations?
The gloating can hardly be considered the best source of worldly joys. It’s better to get rid of this feeling. Immediately, of course, it will not work, you will have to work on yourself for some time, but this will only bring benefits.
First, it’s worth trying to expand the circle of acquaintances, trying to communicate more with completely opposite people. Differences can cause hostility and rejection, but this is only at the very beginning. Later, they will be replaced by understanding, and maybe even sympathy. Such contacts help a person to develop in himself the ability to see the world with different eyes, and give the opportunity and experience of conscious empathy. Psychologists call this empathy.
Classical literature can also help change for the better. It’s enough to get a list of the most outstanding works and find time to “get acquainted” with them. It should be understood that the mystical and adventure pop will not be useful.
We are talking about true literary classics: Dostoevsky, Bulgakov, Chekhov, Shakespeare, Wilde, Dickens. Active communication, backed up by the right books, in a year and a half will give the desired result. With the emergence of interest in other people, the gloating will gradually recede.