Conflicts can happen even in the strongest and most loving family. Probably, with all the desire, it is impossible to find a married couple who would never quarrel over their life together. Therefore, in the fact of the conflict there is nothing strange, much less shameful. But it is very important to be able to stop in time, to extinguish the conflict at the very beginning, and if it came out "full-blown", then get rid of its negative consequences as soon as possible.
Instruction manual
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First of all, one must resist the temptation to blame the opposite side, because in the vast majority of cases both husband and wife are to blame for the conflict, albeit to a different degree. Recognizing that at least part of the blame lies with you will help you find the right way out of the situation.
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Remember the old truth: “The one who is smarter is the first step towards reconciliation.” Alas, wounded pride, pride, resentment often outweigh this truth. You can start with some neutral phrase, for example, "I'm sorry that everything turned out that way" or "let's try to figure out how to avoid quarrels and reproaches in the future."
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Try to conduct the conversation in the most correct tone, in every possible way refraining from reproaches, accusations, personal identifications, mention of the mother-in-law, mother-in-law and other relatives on both sides. Speak only to the point. Calmly, frankly, without reservations explain what exactly you didn’t like in this or that situation, what actions or words of the opposite side touched you, offended you.
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If you feel that the claims to your address are fair, honestly and frankly say so. Be sure to emphasize that they did not even have the slightest malice, did not want to offend. Promise that you will draw conclusions and in the future refrain from such words and deeds. And try to keep your promise.
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To “consolidate” reconciliation, make each other a gift that you have long dreamed of. For example, take a trip. And if you don’t have the time or finances do not allow, then at least go to the theater or to the exhibition. The main thing is to get positive emotions from the time spent together.
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Do not remember the conflict that occurred at every opportunity and even more so do not poke your loved one constantly into a mistake made earlier.