Nobody really knows what willpower is: whether it is a separate quality or just a set of parameters such as virtue and good motivation. But we all often encounter a problem when willpower refuses to work.
Why do you need willpower?
Man: his desires play a greater role here than external factors.
For example, he may not respond to remarks about a slightly sagging stomach, lack of order in his house or unwillingness to get up before 12 days. But if a man lights up with an idea, it will be impossible to stop him. The will of a man who longs for something is harder than steel.
Woman: since childhood, realizing the importance of obedience, trying to please others.
It will more often be guided by the word "necessary" than "I want." Many stereotypes are so deeply ingrained in consciousness that a woman is no longer aware: after all, this requires a great deal of will. For example, hair removal or childbirth. No man would go for it. And women voluntarily agree and do not boast of sweat.
What is the scope of willpower?
Man: concentrates on one thing.
Often this concentration is achieved not by the achievements of the representative of the stronger sex, but by the willingness of a woman nearby (it doesn’t matter if this is mom, grandmother or wife) to create suitable conditions for translating the goal into reality.
Woman: trying to take on a lot of things and do them if not perfect, then good.
Home, work, children, older relatives, preparing a matinee in kindergarten
Women are accustomed to working in multitasking mode, and it is very difficult for them to direct all their efforts to just one action. This is possible in the short term, but for a long time women are not enough. A special will is demonstrated by women who seek to recover from a serious illness as soon as possible, since they have a lot of things that do not wait.
What kind of behavior chooses if willpower has given slack?
Man: able to easily abandon the desired and choose a different goal in the same field.
The best quality of men consists in the ability to accept failures of willpower not as failure and not engage in self-discipline. After all, the main task is not to avoid mistakes, but to continue moving in the right direction.
Woman: due to the slightest failure, she is deeply disappointed.
Even the smallest oversight is perceived as a complete lack of willpower, which does not stimulate to continue to achieve the desired. Instead, women often give up and then reproach themselves even more. Instead, you should think: "Yes, now I have given slack, but this is not scary. I am doing everything right."