The betrayal of a loved one is a great test in our life. Those who have come across a betrayal at least once understand how painful it is. However, do not be discouraged. It is better to perceive a situation when you are betrayed as an important life lesson. If you hit it, your task is to prevent a recurrence.
Instruction manual
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Understand what you consider betrayal. Very often people in situations of stress tend to exaggerate the harmfulness of other people's actions. Whether the person really broke his promises, or he did not even promise you what you expected from him. Say, if a guy betrayed a girl by cheating on her, you need to understand if he promised to be faithful to her. Modern men sometimes do not even hide their intentions to have relationships with several women. Usually the guys who have not yet decided on the behavior behave this way. If this is your case, it is not a fact that even treason can be considered a betrayal.
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Learn the level of your expectations. A particularly important point for those who have been betrayed more than once. Maybe the problem is that you ask too much from people, and if they are not able to fulfill all the requirements, you declare them traitors? The other pole of the problem is low expectations. If you initially consider people to be enemies and villains, it’s easier for them not to strain to look good in your eyes. Intuitively, they understand that it’s difficult for some people to please, because they do not expect anything good. So they do not try.
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Study the behavior of the traitor, make his psychological portrait. This is necessary in order to behave more carefully in the future with people who behave in a similar way. Very rarely, betrayal happens suddenly. As a rule, there are many indirect evidence that someone is dishonest with you. Analyze your intuition, which in the past told you that a person can cheat. Try in the future to be more attentive to such manifestations of character.