Do not be upset if you are not awarded with innate sensitivity. Tact can be developed in oneself through a certain work. Observe the relationships between people and be careful with the feelings of others.
Instruction manual
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Watch how relationships between people develop. To do this, you can turn to the works of world literature. Read novels, watch how characters communicate. Books written by world-famous authors can teach you a lot. You will see how some character traits of this or that hero are connected with his actions, you will understand what words or actions lead to quarrels and breaks, how different people can react to different circumstances.
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Observing people's relationships is also useful in real life. Other people's actions, emotions and words will help you better know others. Over time, you will learn to predict the reactions of other people. This will help you become more tactful and attentive to the feelings of those around you.
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Think about what character traits help you get along with others, show yourself as a tactful person. For example, kindness, attentiveness, desire to understand another, lack of focus on oneself, listening ability can be attributed to them. You can take as an example a person who is familiar to you, who successfully builds relationships with people of various types. Think about the qualities that help her in this, and try to develop them for yourself.
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Learn the basics of personality psychology. This will help you understand how to find an approach to others, how to build relationships with them, so as not to hurt their feelings. You will understand what questions you should not ask in order not to put others in an uncomfortable position, and you will realize what kind of behavior is inappropriate.
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Watch not only what you say, but also how you do it. Your posture, facial expressions, and voice also matter. Your behavior must be consistent with the meaning of the phrases uttered, otherwise you will seem like an insincere person. Avoid aggressiveness and impatience in gestures. Be polite and listen carefully. Do not look away and do not take a thoughtfully bored look.
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Be careful with criticisms. A phrase that seems rather innocent to you can deeply hurt a person. You can casually throw something about the features in the appearance of the interlocutor or his personal quality, and he will be very upset. This is tactfulness - in the art of creating a comfortable atmosphere around oneself when communicating. Do not say too much.
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Learn to be more humble. Do not talk loudly in public or discuss those present with someone. Remember, sometimes tact comes down to observing elementary rules of etiquette. Understand that publicizing the details of a personal life can be unpleasant for a person.
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Think of others. Try to behave so as not to cause anyone inconvenience. No need to loudly listen to music in the workplace. This can distract colleagues. If someone is feeling bad, sad, or uncomfortable, offer your help. Do not aggressively brag about success in your career or personal life for less successful people. Your bragging can hurt them.