Harmonious relationships are the result of the long work of a couple in love. Many people have the erroneous opinion that a person falls in love, creates a family, and this is enough. But time shows that strong relationships require constant work on oneself.
Over the years, more and more disagreements arise between spouses. More often the usual word "thank you" is forgotten. Gratitude to the beloved is expressed only on holidays. Why is this happening, and is it possible to return to its former proximity?
The causes of what is happening are in us. In the speed and bustle of the present time, someone forgets, someone does not have time to pay enough attention to his soulmate. Unwillingness to better understand each other also leads to a cooling of feelings.
What is the chance to build a relationship? He is very great, you just need a desire to work on your mutual understanding. Do not be afraid of the word “work”, because the rule “how much you invest - the more you get” is inherent in relations. Today, to solve problems, many resort to the method of imago therapy.
For the first time, American psychotherapists Harville Hendricks and Helen Hunt began to use it, who achieved significant results. The essence of the idea of adult therapy lies in the openness of partners, in their ability to trust the chosen one. The main tasks are the reunion of partners, as well as the development of listening skills.
To solve the problems, an imago dialogue is suggested. With it, partners direct their energy and emotions to understanding the interlocutor and showing sympathy. This makes it possible to again feel the charm of intimacy and the forgotten feeling of pacified love.
The sequence of dialogue is conditionally divided into 4 stages:
1. Creating an enabling environment, that is, no one should bother you.
2. Choose who will begin to speak first and who will listen, and repeat the words of the speaker.
3. The “speaker” should say three sentences of gratitude to the partner.
4. "Listener" repeats the words heard.
When the “speaker” listens to the words spoken by him, he must feel his speech from the side, rethink it. If you decide to cope with your problems yourself, then special video tutorials will help you with this. If you wish, you can attend trainings and seminars on this topic. But if this is beyond your strength, then be sure to contact a specialist for help.