The biggest disappointments in our lives are the result of deceived expectations. This is especially true in relationships and in communication with other people. If you reduce the expectations of something from others, then disappointments will be proportionally reduced. What is needed for this?
1. Stop expecting to be agreed with you. If you express your decision or your opinion, it is not necessary for a person to agree with him. How many people, so many opinions. Therefore, you should not expect that they will agree with you.
2. Stop expecting you to be respected more than you respect yourself. And do not expect any mutual feelings from people.
3. Stop expecting others to like you. You absolutely do not have to like everyone. Moreover, it is impossible to please everyone. In any society, there will always be those people who will be dissatisfied with something. You must take it for granted. If someone doesn’t like you, just take it as a fact, there’s nothing to be offended about and there’s nothing to be upset about.
4. Stop waiting for people to fit into your idea of them. To love and respect people means letting them be themselves. If you stop expecting people to behave in a certain way, then you can appreciate them more.
5. Stop expecting people to understand what you are thinking. Many people think, especially for women, that other people can guess what you think. Often, others do not even mean what is going on in your head, so you should not expect everyone to understand you.
6. Stop waiting for people to change dramatically. If a loved one has a habit that bothers you, you should not expect that soon it will disappear if you tell the person about it. Changing a person is absolutely useless, it is better to leave him alone and take care of yourself.
7. Stop expecting that people will always be fine. Our life is so arranged: after the fall there is a rise, after the rise there will be a fall. Take it for granted. You should not expect that people will always be fine, this world is designed so that everything will not always be in order, but everything can be changed.
As soon as we take all these things for granted and stop expecting something from people, our life will immediately change for the better.