Ordinary lies accompany a person throughout his life. Why do people lie, even the most sincere and decent, is it really inherent in human nature?
Man is lying all his life. Myself, loved ones, those around him — everyone with whom he is in contact, in communication. The forms of lies are many and varied - lies, lies, deceit, cunning, tales, tales and even innocent jokes. Condemning the lie, the layman does not suggest that “the lie” turns out to be a congenital trait, which at different periods of a person’s life has various signs, motivation and manifests itself in different forms.
- From 2 to 7 years old, the most characteristic forms of deception for a child are such as vagaries and fantasies.
- From 8 to 13 years, cunning and secrecy develops especially strongly (I did not see, I do not know, I did not notice, etc.)
- From 14 to 19 years old, lying is motivated by an exaggeration of its social significance - these are stories of personal "heroism" presented by the narrator in bright colors and amazing details.
- From 19 to 35 "commercial lies" are developing. In other words, any lie is good if it brings material benefits.
- From 35 to 45, a “mature lie” appears; during this period of a person’s life, a “family lie” develops. Moreover, the fraud between husband and wife can be completely innocent in nature, is connected only in order not to injure your spouse. Although it is during this period that marriage is checked for strength, and a lie can be associated both with flirting and with the betrayal of one of the representatives of marriage ties.
- From 45 to 55, the lie acquires perfect forms and passes into the stage of sophisticated craftiness. Man uses the whole life "experience of the ability to lie." It is at this age that it is most difficult to convict a lying person of lying.
- From 55 years old - a wonderful form of deception is flourishing, which masquerades as "your opinion." In other words, any lie can be justified and served as a personal, "experienced" look at some things in a person of advanced age.
Of course, everyone develops the art of lying strictly individually, but a certain programmatic development of the “lies” inherent in the human person exists, which is why the endless debate of psychologists and researchers of human souls continues.
- Charles W. Ford Psychology of Deception. How, why and why even honest people lie
- Georges Duprat Why people lie
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