A rare person can boast of ambitiousness and iron nerves, which do not give up under the pressure of difficulties. It is perfectly normal that the bulk of the people are highly dependent on the opinions of others and need regular approval. However, “normal” does not mean “good” at all, especially if you want to develop and improve your leadership skills.
Instruction manual
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Never deny other people's opinions. Exactly this: the more you say, “I don’t care what you think of me, ” the stronger the opposite effect is obtained. “Not depending” on people's opinions is not the same as “not hearing criticism.” Analyze what has been said and highlight the objective, the subjective, just ignore it.
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Practice forming your own opinions. Accustom yourself to write reviews of the films you have watched (it will also develop literary skills) or limit yourself to at least a coherent point of view. The more reasonably you will understand why you do not like this or that thing, the less chance of others to convince you.
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Consider incoming offers. If you are really very dependent on others, then, with a high degree of probability, you do not know how to refuse. Check yourself: each request you should reasonably weigh and fulfill only if it does not harm you. Indirect refusal will not work (referring to the fact that you have a cat, it’s not a strong manifestation), but transmitted through some means of communication (Skype, ICQ, SMS) is quite suitable for a start.
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Be the first to comment. It often happens that you change your position under the pressure of the strong arguments of a good speaker. Remember that the opinion is purely individual! Trying to leave the cinema with friends, be the first to comment on what you’ve watched. You’ll see that they will listen to you and may not agree - but this will not be so important, because your thoughts are voiced and they did not depend on anyone around.
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Do not fuss. In no case do not try at one moment to become a decisive and strong personality, it is difficult. Create something like a plan based on the techniques described above and invented by you personally, and gradually follow it. The main thing is to record your successes so that over time you can see quantitatively how often you began to express your opinion and how much less you began to pay attention to the imposed from the outside.