It often happens that because of a trifle, which in another case you can ignore and forget, a serious quarrel flares up. After some time, opponents already throw insults in the face, and dishes under their feet. Today, the standard scenario looks like this: someone weeps exhausted, someone slams the door loudly, but both have bad feelings in their hearts.
Instruction manual
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Never insult each other, even if the conversation turned to any offensive topics. In order for a dispute to develop into a quarrel, sometimes one intentional or accidental insult is enough. Even if the topic of a serious conversation is your relationship, try to focus on the problem itself, and not on the personality of your interlocutor.
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Speak and listen alternately.
This is a fairly simple and at the same time effective psychological technique. It consists in the fact that both sides in a quarrel should speak alternately. As soon as the simultaneous screams cease, the conversation will switch to a low tone, and, in the end, will turn into a normal conversation.
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Pour water into your mouth.
There are people who can start from a half-turn; they differ in hot temper, but quick-witted. If you pay attention to every phrase spoken in haste, the hassle will become your usual way of communication. Therefore, quietly keeping silent is the only and sure way by which frequent quarrels can be avoided.
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Stop signal.
If constant quarrels become a habit, try to come up with your opponent a special word - a password that will instantly switch the topic of conversation. In practice, it looks like this: if you feel that a quarrel is brewing, say a special word, after which you and your opponent will be silent for a minute. Only after that you can continue the quarrel, but, as a rule, there will be no continuation.
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Sex.
Most likely, sex is the most effective way by which you can avoid a quarrel. You have probably noticed more than once that your loved one deliberately provokes a quarrel, because after her closeness becomes the most pleasant. Try to push your man to this yourself, and perhaps your initiative will be encouraged.
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Set time measures.
Try to agree that you can quarrel only in a certain period of time. Even if your resentment did not go away, talking on this topic should never be done. If you stand it at least once, next time you’ll think about whether to start a new quarrel.