Each of us has a wonderful ability - the ability to communicate. Each of us knows people who can talk a lot. But there is little to say for success, it is important to know some simple rules that contribute to successful communication.
How to communicate effectively and successfully?
Try to be open and friendly
You need not only to receive communication, but also to start it. Do not close, get to know new people first and let them do the same.
Learn to listen
For many, this is a very difficult task. It’s hard for people to listen, as they focus on their thoughts and problems. Even if you were laconic during the conversation, but showed a sincere interest in the person you are talking to, this will be felt and they will say about you that you are a good conversationalist. If you are not interested in others, then you will have problems, both in communication and in relationships with other people.
Make your interlocutor understand that his thought has been heard
Do not interrupt a person. Show sincere interest, respect and care to your interlocutor. Also use confirmation techniques. Here are some examples of confirmation that you can tell a person: “Thank you!”, “Excellent!”, “Thank you for saying that!”, “How interesting!”, “Of course!”. These words help the other person understand what you really heard and marked him, what he did, how he looks. In other words, it helps him feel that he has been heard.
Respect the interlocutor and his opinion
If someone told you about their opinion - do not argue with him, even if you have a different point of view. Another person does not have to have the same taste and the same point of view. Do not argue, be tolerant. It is better to find something in common in your views.
Ask, offer your idea
It happens that a person does not want to ask a question, because he is afraid to be refused. But you can pose the question so that your interlocutor agrees with your ideas. By asking a question, you give the person the opportunity to choose how to answer you - yes or no. Think of your interlocutor as your best friend, and it will be easy for you to communicate. It is more pleasant and easier to communicate in a friendly atmosphere than in a conflict situation. Ask questions with a positive attitude. Do not say: “You probably don’t want to dance with me?”, “Did I bother you?”, “I probably got tired of you with my requests?” Instead, make an offer: “Let's go dance!”, “I have news for you!”