Every year in Russia there are more and more divorces. About half the marriages of people aged 25-40 years end in separation. In most cases, such families have children.
The worst thing about a divorce is that the child begins to direct his aggression and protests inward, towards himself, which can lead to various neurological problems, neuroses. Manifestations may also be increased aggressiveness, decreased academic performance, and tantrums.
A parent left with a child ceases to be reliable for him, because he is also immersed in his personal problems associated with divorce - self-doubt, fear of future financial changes, fear of his own unattractiveness. One parent left, and the second is not able to give him the necessary attention - a vicious circle from which the child cannot leave and becomes lonely and defenseless.
Correct divorce
If a final decision is made to get a divorce, then you need to pay as much attention as possible to the effect of this decision on children.
The following rules will help to do this:
- Try to respect each other and not stoop to insults.
- The child must know the truth about the impending divorce.
- Do not blame the child for the manifestation of aggression in relation to what happened.
- Start devoting more time to children, try to delve into all their problems and listen carefully.
- Do not set against the second side.
- Try together to show the child that each of his parents loves him.
Only care, attention, love and understanding can try to reduce the negative manifestations of divorce for the child and this should be done by both parents.