There are reasons why a person may not like communication in large companies. This is influenced by temperament, self-esteem and other individual characteristics.
Sometimes lovers of noisy holidays and feasts sincerely do not understand those who avoid such events. They wonder why someone voluntarily deprives himself of positive emotions, pleasant communication and an extra reason to see good friends.
If you look closely at those who do not like communication in large companies, there are several reasons that could explain their attitude.
1. Temperament.
Communication in noisy groups during feasts, for example, is an intensive exchange of emotions, thoughts, ideas. This is a certain dynamism, rhythm, pace. Several people can speak at the same time, strong and vivid emotions are in the air, statements are constantly accompanied by laughter and commentary. One starts the topic, the other leads it in a different direction, the third speaks about his own.
There are people who, by the type of their temperament, do not feel the need for such intense communication. They just are. This does not mean any problems or their inconsistency in something. They can get tired of inconsistency and emotional fussing due to the nature of their personality.
Such people are tuned to a more calm wave of information processing. Perhaps they may be prone to deeper and thoughtful communication, and depth rarely accompanies noisy feasts.
2. Self-esteem.
The next reason may be low self-esteem. If you communicate not in a narrow circle of two or three people, but in a large company (from 3-4 people or more), then the communication itself acquires a number of features.
Firstly, in presenting ourselves, we are to some extent subjected to an assessment at once of a large number of people, each of whom has his own attitude and judgment on the topic you raised. This situation is becoming more significant compared with communication in a narrower circle. You need to have some stability, high enough self-esteem to feel comfortable, to be yourself, and not try to meet the expectations of others. If self-esteem is reduced, then the dependence on the assessment of others increases and instead of a pleasant pastime, tension and a desire to leave as soon as possible appear.
Secondly, when setting out something for a large number of listeners, we encounter a lot of judgments about our topic and must be more confident that our message will be heard than in the same situation in a small team. It’s harder to prove something to more people. It also depends on self-esteem.
3. Past experience.
And the last reason can be attributed to possible individual features that may interfere with the comfortable feeling in large companies. For example, it can be personal unpleasant moments associated with similar situations.
Someone in the kindergarten was forced to read poetry while standing on a table in front of a demanding audience, someone was scolded by a teacher at the whole class, someone caused ridicule by companions in a kindergarten or school, etc.
After such situations, unpleasant sensations may remain, which are reproduced against the will in adulthood. Already in a new benevolent situation, past ridicule and rejection will seem.
To change your perception of the situation it is necessary to overcome and change some old patterns.
Perhaps, in some cases, several reasons can cause discomfort when communicating in large companies. And you need to deal with them sequentially.