In the right dosage, even poison is useful. In excessive - even something super-useful is harmful. Most often, excesses turn out to be bad in everything. However, the difficulty is that sometimes indicators with the prefix “too” and “too much” become fashionable, and people begin to strive for a maximum in everything that, after a certain limit, simply crosses out the good that is. In fact, this is a good way to get away from problems: to improve what is already good with everything, instead of paying attention to where correction and correction are really needed.
Harmony criterion
There are many important things in life. What is the most important thing? How many people, so many answers. But everyone will definitely find it difficult to single out one thing. Is it possible to find such a "one", which, even being perfected, will prove sufficient in itself for complete human happiness? Of course not. There are many important things in life, and the inner state, which is commonly called happiness, depends on the well-being of each of them and the harmony between them.
Find a link
Quite often it happens that disorder in some area of life, dissatisfaction in it makes it difficult to enjoy the good that is. Therefore, it is so important to understand at any given moment in different stages of life that it deserves attention in the first place. The pitfall here can be found this way: it may be too painful to look directly at the “damaged link” of your life chain. Instead, we can enthusiastically take on the improvement and modernization of what does not really bother us, but why not? After all, where is the limit to perfection. And this is just the case that falls into the category of "the best is the enemy of the good." For example, another shopping at clothing stores will cheer you up, but if everything is in order with the wardrobe, and the question of the whole delayed start of repairs is tormenting you, then very, very briefly. The more important for us the aspect that affects the problem situation, the greater the resistance can cause the intention to pay attention to it. It's like with a bad tooth - I don’t want to pull out, but if you pull it, it will only get worse. You need to stop thinking, but just take and do. Thanks in advance to yourself, that you undertake what is currently not so easy and at the same time necessary for you.
Horizontal instead of vertical
It's amazing how many things we do in our life just out of habit! We are not trying to bring anything new into it. No, who agrees with this? Doesn't someone love new products? We go and buy a new generation TV, taking the old one to the trash or taking it to the country. We purchase the tenth jeans of an ultramodern model. We change the iPhone to an improved one. And what do we get from what is truly new to us? Add to the use of serum cream is not considered. We are so used to essentially uniform vertical movement that we don’t even check how much joy and satisfaction it brings to us. It creates a feeling of some "forward movement", we do not feel backward, "worse than others", and this is enough. While how much greater wealth and much more powerful improvements are waiting for us in just one step of horizontal movement! An even higher definition TV is by and large the same TV, and we will get used to its slightly better image quality and stop noticing it in two days. The joy of such acquisitions and “innovations” is short-lived, because they do not bring anything new in essence to our lives. At the same time, there is no change in one’s usual way of life, both related to shopping, and can change both the world and self-awareness very much! Wear pants all the time? Try skirts and dresses! Do you always have a manicure in the salon? Try to do it yourself! For morning coffee wander aimlessly on the net? Try reading a guide on a topic that interests you - for example, I am very attracted to such publications as "All About Everything" and "Biology. Man. Grade 9.:)
No wonder the issue of comfort zone is given so much attention in a variety of sources. Each walks in his own, one and the same circle in a certain time section. Of course, this circle can be cleaned, painted in a different color, and this is wonderful. But this does not compare with expanding it, because the world is so big! Moreover, it is in those places in which it is too narrow for you (and for you).
Maximum - in balance
Why are we buying into relentless offers to improve what we are doing with and so on? Try the best shampoo, buy something at a better deal, instead of sweet sugar, prefer even more sweet? As already mentioned, this helps us to divert our attention from what really needs to be corrected and what we are not too pleased to look at. And also - we like to move forward. Develop. Following the passage of time, the growth of achievements and the development of new technologies, try what is obtained as a result of this. But the best is really the enemy of the good precisely because living a full, eventful life is possible only when there is balance in it. When we do not pay excessive attention to one of its areas in order to avoid meeting with others that are no less important to us, our happiness. Perhaps you need to make a very small effort, but exactly where it is needed, and at the most suitable moment for this. As a result of such a change, life changes! Balance restored, harmony reigns. It would seem incredible miracles? How can something improve by itself when completely different problems that were not related to this topic have been resolved? It is very simple: by itself, or almost by itself - with a little help, which will not cost you anything without poisoning the emotional state of oppression of the main troubled problem, which is now a bang! - solved.
The whole thing is crowned
Leo Tolstoy wrote in “Anna Karenina”: II ne faut jamais rien outrer, which in French means “You should never go to extremes”. The total limit is no better, this is the other side of the same coin. Moderation is the key to success, good mood and excellent health. Psychologists say that in families where alcohol was completely banned, children with a much higher probability became further dependent on it! In those where they were taught the proper handling of alcohol, taught moderation, problems in the future there were much less or not at all. Don’t take it for granted, the magic of moderation - or its absence - works the same. There are completely different examples. Unhappy children, whom, due to their best intentions, their closest people mercilessly forced to go to endless museums, read a lot of books when they did not want, and which were uninteresting or incomprehensible to them, often by the time they grow up they completely lose their “appetite” for such things! They are literally full of them for life. But how sad..! Both books and museums can enrich life and entertain the creature of the human race.:)