Ivan Urgant, a well-known TV presenter and actor, once said a wonderful phrase: “I don’t choose friends. This is a stupid and useless activity. I’m much more interested in choosing vegetables on the market. Friends are gifts of fate.” However, nothing prevents a person from acquiring a large number of acquaintances, so that it would be easier for fate to select "gifts" from them.
You will need
- desire to communicate, self-confidence, goodwill.
Instruction manual
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Remember if there are people in your environment with whom you have the so-called hats acquaintance: neighbors on the porch, classmates (classmates, colleagues), sellers in the store. You are used to exchanging greetings and insignificant phrases with them. What prevents you from getting to know each other better by having a casual conversation? Just do not do this, if you see that a person is in a hurry, choose a more appropriate moment.
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Find a new hobby for yourself, or rather a few. You can get a huge number of acquaintances with those who share your interests, enrolling in a gym, a local bicycle club or any other leisure club. The main thing is to choose an activity that will be of joy to you, even if so far you know little about it.
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Review your contact lists on social networks. Perhaps with these people you will become good penpals or even in reality. If you have few contacts, expand your contacts on the social network through, for example, various communities and interest groups. Create new accounts on those sites where you have not registered yet.
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Meet people on the street, in cinemas, cafes and other public places. Go to the person you are interested in, smile and ask something. For example, standing at a bus stop, ask how long the bus with the number you need passed. After receiving the answer, take an interest in the route of the interlocutor, if he is configured positively, the conversation will begin.
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Rate the acquaintances who appeared on the subject of common interests and worldviews. Chat more with those you like. You can even organize a new company in this way, and not join the already formed one. Invite a few people to spend time together, continue to unobtrusively learn about their lives, which will help to get closer.
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Chat with new friends, letting your relationship grow. Be prepared that someone will drop out, but there will certainly be those with whom you will meet for many years, friendship with whom will be checked by time and will flow into trusting cooperation. These are the people with whom you will go through life's difficulties and note personal success.
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To make such friends more, continue to expand the circle of acquaintances, develop as a person, read good books, including on the psychology of relationships. If you are flexible, ready for easy communication and open conversations, friends will become an integral part of your life.