Resentment is an obsessive feeling that negatively affects for the most part those who experience it. To cope with this is not easy and sometimes a person is not able to control himself and his emotions.
Resentment is a deadly weapon for the soul, because without understanding it, we literally wound it, destroying it. How resentment is manifested. Resentment can occur in a variety of ways. People begin to be silent or cry, become immersed in themselves, nervous, angry. In any case, a person must be aware that nothing can be changed by this. And the offender will always find a way to justify himself in order to put himself in the best light. Resentment at the actions of others is a defensive reaction of the body to external factors that a person considers incorrect.
Resentment is detrimental to self-esteem. By this you involuntarily try to remove psychological stress and stress so as not to sink to the bottom. How to get rid of resentment. First you need to describe everything that is stored inside you during an insult. What did you think, how did you behave. Write it all down on a white sheet of paper without missing out on the slightest detail, then tear the sheet and burn everything. Flush the ashes into the toilet or throw them in the trash. What feelings were caused by the offender. Were you scared? Did you feel hopeless or hateful?
Carefully analyze all this, sort out yourself. Imagine how you think the offender should have acted so that his guilt is smoothed out. Forget about the not particle. For example, "he needs to talk heart to heart with me and figure it out." Answer the questions: Why did a person act in this way? What have I done wrong? What influenced? No need to justify anyone, be honest with yourself. Did he know about my expectations? What did I expect from him? Do I deserve such behavior towards me? What could affect the situation?
You need to let go of this feeling, because it kills and destroys you from within. As soon as you release everything, it will become much easier for you to live on.