Humiliation can cause severe stress, especially if it is completely undeserved, committed in public or repeated regularly. There are cases when people were brought to suicide. What to do to protect yourself from insults and derogatory words and actions?
Instruction manual
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Very common is humiliation at work. Usually the bosses allow themselves offensive attacks and often do this with other employees. Often, other colleagues join in humiliation at the suggestion of their bosses, harassing or, as it is now commonly called, mobbing.
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If you are not a unique specialist, then the only thing you can do to save your face and your nerves is quit. If you have been humiliated once, they will continue to do this further, taking advantage of your subordinate or weak position. It is better not to wait another time and apply for resignation.
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If you are ready to confront, then get ready for the fact that the battle will be difficult. And, most likely, you will lose this job anyway. So is it worth wasting time and nerves to prove something to someone who is so weak and insecure that he is forced to prove his worth by humiliation?
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If you are humiliated by an outsider or unfamiliar person, it is best not to respond, to ignore someone who is trying to hurt you. Most likely, in front of you is an energy vampire who feeds on other people's fear and emotions. Do not give him food, behave as if he is simply not around. It is clear that everything is in full swing inside you, and you want to answer the offender, but not worth it. After all, this is what he expects from you - a reaction to his manipulation. Do not play his game - just don’t notice. Tell yourself that he is not. You can mentally imagine him with an overturned garbage can on his head. Can you talk to someone with garbage on their heads? No. So do not communicate!
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It is much more difficult if you are humiliated by a person close to you from whom you can’t just leave and turn away - a husband, brother, mother, child. Try to figure out why and why they do it? Perhaps their attempt to humiliate you is their desperate cry for help? They are not satisfied with their life and take out their failure on you?
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Try to talk to them calmly, not immediately after humiliation, later, in a calm phase. Try to understand what is eating them, why did they find it possible to offend you? Sometimes calm conversations help. Sometimes not. It is best to go to a psychologist to get expert advice.
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In some cases, it is possible to adjust the relationship, and possibly yourself. But it happens that the situation does not improve, and then you have to make a choice. In the case of a husband, divorce is often the way out, unfortunately. Since often after humiliation the husband goes on to assault, then patience and confrontation can be dangerous. With parents it is much more difficult, but with them it is mono to limit their communication.
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In any situation, you will have to decide what is more important for you - to maintain your dignity and fight back or endure in order to save.