We all want to control ourselves and cope with our emotions. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. But the ancient Greeks already knew how to learn such a necessary art, and even the children of the East taught the ability to control themselves even small children.
Instruction manual
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First of all, for self-regulation, for the ability to maintain a good mood, to relieve neuropsychic stress, learn to listen to yourself and your body, and manage it.
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In the countries of the east, this skill is called meditation, in our psychologists - auto-training. For example, if you are cold, do not "squeeze", aggravating the state of the cold, but straighten your shoulders and give the command to the brain: "I am not at all cold. I am warm."
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Do not try to immediately control the physical condition of your body. Start by controlling your emotions. When an emotion arises (we mean an emotion negative for you - unreasonable fear, a feeling of anxiety, irritation, etc.) try not to let it grow.
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Turn your attention to some business related to another, but no less urgent problem for you. For example, you didn’t pass the exam, and are worried about this, remember that you have to go on a date tomorrow, and you have nothing to wear and you need to go to the store for a purchase.
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Also, use methods aimed at fading the emerging emotion. Here you will be helped by exercises to relax individual muscles and muscle groups. Lie on your back and gradually relieve tension, starting from the heels and ending with the muscles of the face. Repeat to yourself: "I am calm, my legs are relaxed, my hands are relaxed, I am easy and calm
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By controlling emotions, learn to control your behavior. Observe yourself for three to four weeks. Identify those inappropriate behavioral reactions that you want to get rid of. Think about how you should "react" correctly. And develop the habit of doing the "right" thing, adequately. To do this, you must constantly keep the “situation under control” and not allow emotions to prevail.
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Of course, learning to control yourself always and everywhere is not an easy task. But when you learn this, life will become calmer and happier. In addition, understanding yourself, you will better understand others.