Character is closely related to the temperament of a person, as well as his abilities. It determines the form of manifestation of certain reactions, as well as the dynamics of mental processes. You cannot change the type of temperament, but if you have developed willpower, you can control and correct the negative traits of your character.
You will need
- - paper;
- - a pen;
- - self-control;
- - a role model.
Instruction manual
one
Keep in mind that after 30 years of age dramatic changes in character occur extremely rarely. But still trying to change is never too late. To solve this problem, there are many methods that are based on the same postulate: the desire to change must be own and conscious.
2
Write on a separate piece of paper character traits that you consider to be "harmful." Opposite each, indicate how it manifests. This will help you facilitate control over yourself and prevent future unpleasant actions. For example, your negative character is anger. It can manifest itself in the fact that you, often without hearing the interlocutor, begin to be rude to him. In this case, begin to control your actions: try to listen to the person to the end, count to ten before saying any sharpness.
3
Choose a role model (it can be a real or a fictional person). Begin to follow him, ask yourself how the “standard” acted in your place. Thus, copying the desired manner of behavior, you will develop the right habits, minimizing the manifestation of negative character traits. Just do not try to copy someone’s behavior in a template. Here you need to understand that you are individual, and therefore some features will manifest themselves with a hue characteristic only of you.
4
Take into account that a person’s character is created for a long time, it is difficult to overcome unpleasant traits, all this requires a long and painstaking work. But only the first week presents a particular difficulty. When the control actions over the manifestation of the "dark" sides of your character become a habit, tracking your behavior will become much easier. And soon, what you didn’t like about your character will cease to complicate your life, which will improve communication with loved ones.
5
It doesn’t matter which character correction system you use. It is much more important that you sincerely wish to change for the better, remembering that there is no limit to perfection.